By Leda De Zwaan
Your inner child is ALWAYS inside of you. You carry it around wherever you go because he or she lives in your heart. When the inner child is abandoned by its father or mother, discouraged, or not ‘acknowledged’ by parents when you were young. But also cheated on or rejected by a loved one… Then what happens?
What does the inner child do?
The inner child says: ‘I will shield myself from feeling anything for anyone. I do NOT want a serious, loving relationship because loving someone means getting abandoned or turned down. Caring for somebody will cause me pain, depression and even illness.
Of course you’ll keep on living and you‘ll move on, but your inner child will be there forever, protecting you from new possible heartbreak.
What happens when you connect, meet, see (even through internet) a possible long-term partner?
The inner child (tarot card 9 of wands) awakens (as a huge force of energy), already in fear of losing that person in the future. Will she leave me for another man? Will she turn me down, when my heart is wide open for her? Will she be mean, arrogant or bitchy? Will she get ill or maybe even die?Your inner child, has become so scared of all you’ve already gone through, that the slightest form of affection for anyone can trigger it’s alarms. It has nothing to do with your new crush by the way, this new wo(man( could well be the love of your life!
How does this trigger point works?
The energy can take over your whole system. It is so strong in protecting you from any more harm, that this can show up in your body functions, but also behaviour and sleep. When it stands up, all of a sudden, it can look lik this:
– Heart problems ‘out of nowhere’
– The strong feeling of ‘ending this now’- whatever it is.
– Feeling very nervous, without any reason
– Crying out of nowhere, and feeling scared and lost
– The person that comes near you, has to be ‘ removed at once’.
– You cannot sleep anymore, thr is something ‘seriously wrong’
– You start drinking/smoking, or any othr habit to escap from ‘ something’ that feels like a enurmous danger. You want to ‘ get away’
– You need to be alone, and protect yourself, you feel like runnig away now.
– It feels like a ‘ alarm-situation’
What can I do?
Meditate. Lay a hand on your heart and see the child (you as a young boy/girl) in front of you. Ask why it is in so much fear. Hold it when it cries. Tell it this: ‘I am Now grown up. I will remain to protect and comfort you. I DO want to be open to this new love. I know that what you‘re doing is out of love for me. Thank you. ‘
‘But I’m an adult now, and I choose to connect with this person. Don’t be afraid anymore, trust me…’ Put the inner child back in your heart. Give it some toys to play with, and let it be comfortable. You must do this every day, when it is really afraid of loving again….’
Note: The first encounter with your inner child can be very emotional. She or he could’ve been in a dark corner alone and crying for decades. Just pick it up and comfort it, as you are Grown Up Now. Share emotions, cuddle it and make sure it understands that the situation is going to change Now. You’ll keep on loving it, but you’ll be open for new love at the same time. See in the child’s eyes. Concentrate on it, for a long time. Feel how it looks like, how it feels like, how it acts. It’s scared, confused, insecure and unsafe. How old is your child? See how it holds you back from change, how it prevents you to become emotionally grown up. See how it stops you from getting to your true feelings. You’re capable of holding this child, comforting it. Whisper for example: I’m <<name>> and I’m <<age>> years old. I swear to protect you from everything that might harm you. We can do anything, be anywhere and love anyone. It’s okay to have feelings. I’ve seen you, and I’ll hold you. Let’s change. I’ve already changed. I see your fears and I understand them. I see the pain you’ve experienced in the past. Tell it everything you want it to know and hug it. You’re an adult now, and you can count on yourself. You’re able to protect yourself, love yourself and leave. Embrace your inner child and let it play instead of being scared.
Inner Child practices and meditations
My own inner child. Where would she like to be? What does she want to see? Where does she want to go?
What makes her happy in the present AND the future? What are her dreams? What are her hopes? Where do ‘ my feet’ need to walk, to make us both happy? We – as in Me and My inner child- saw a beautiful mansion, a big tree for ‘grounding’, and a sign post pointing at two different directions: our daily ‘free choice’. We saw an ‘open road’ full of freshness and oxygen and growth! These are symbols for new choices. You can do the same!
I made a collage, with my vintage red shoes from the seventies, it displays where ‘ she’ would like to walk and exist…’- Leda
Another Inner Child practice
Feeling uncomfortable on earth – Incarnate in this body with love
NOTE: First encounter with innerchild, can be very emotional. She/he can/could be in a dark corner alone and crying for 20 years…. Pick her/him up, hold it, as you are GROWN UP NOW. Share emotions, hold it, cuddle it. And say this situation is going to change NOW. You shall love him/her, protect, and shall be open for new love…. If this is too hard/emotional to be alone, please contact me.
Inner child meditations by Leda@ enlighteningmedia.com
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About the author:
Leda is a writer, speaker, journalist, singer, and Coach of the New Energy. She specializes in Add/HSP, twinsoul- and soulmate relationships, Karma cleansing, Regression-therapy, Personalized Meditations. She is an entrepreneur to guide towards a new global shift.
She tries to re-connect you with your inner voice and Unique Essence of Self-Mastery and Self-Love. So called ‘ New Energy;- As she calls her mission. Her website can be found at: www.enlighteningmedia.com, Enlightening Media Facebook