They say love is blind and I’ve witnessed that many times in my life.
Our judgment is naturally clouded when it comes to our partner, lover’s bias I call it. But if this bias is making you blind to the toxicity of your relationship you need to take a step back and analyze it carefully to know whether you are in a healthy relationship or not.
Here are a few things you need to look out for:
You can no longer stand their company
You feel as if you’re walking on thin ice when they are around and you’re always clenching your fists when you hear them speak? For some reason you want to maintain as much distance as possible between them and you. If you are feeling constantly irritated by their mere presence then it is time to reevaluate your relationship.
They are condescending and insulting
If they can’t respect you, they can’t love you, period. If you feel that you are constantly been looked down upon by your partner, and/or your hobbies and goals ridiculed and made fun of, then it is a clear sign of trouble.
You might not have paid attention to it but if you think about it, would you have endured it if someone else said this to you or even if your partner would have behaved like that to your closest friend. Take off the veil of love and look at it with rationality.
There is always trouble
If you find that the two of you are always fighting, when even little things can lead to full blown shouting matches, then the relationship has really run out of fuel. If you can’t trust each other, or patiently talk out your problems then perhaps it is time to question why you are still together.