“People think that a liar gains a victory over his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s reality to the person to whom one lies, making that person one’s master, condemning oneself from then on to faking the sort of reality that person’s view requires to be faked…The man who lies to the world, is the world’s slave from then on…There are no white lies, there is only the blackest of destruction, and a white lie is the blackest of all.” ― Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged.

There is a thing about lies that most people do not understand which is, when we lie we lose two important things: first, the precious gift of being trusted by a loved one and another is the relation which is now a crumpled paper which cannot go back to its original appearance again.

Scientists have found four cues at which a liar can be caught. For the protection of yourself one must always look out for these psychological signs that determine whether you are being lied to or not. Even the greatest liar leaves out gaps which help us to gauge their version of the story. Communication science has revealed 4 key things that liars do when telling a lie. Here is a video that shows how to spot a liar:

Follow these patterns and you’ll be able to read anyone who is trying to fool you:

  1. There is, usually, a negation of the reference of the “I” in their narration when a person is lying. They use third person to distance and disassociate themselves from their life.

 

  1. Pessimists by nature, liars are usually almost always in guilt and that shows in their behavior patterns.

 

  1. Liars cannot use complex words or arguments for their story, so they prefer simplistic terms and most commonplace language to do so. Judgment and evaluation are complex things for our brains to compute.

 

  1. In order to pad the lie, liars usually go for superfluous sentences or words. The verbal blabbering is obvious and may appear to be commonplace, but is usually an excess of unnecessary factual descriptions.

Look out for these 4 elements: lack of self reference, negative talk, shallow description, unnecessary words. One must ask follow up questions which break the whole structure of their lies. Ask them questions like how they felt, what were they wearing that particular day or what were they thinking.

The whole tower of lies will collapse soon. As Dorothy Allison states, “Things come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies.”